If You’re Not Doing This, You’re Not In Control

If You’re Not Doing This, You’re Not In Control

It’s 3pm on a Wednesday, the heat in the office is turned up just a little too high, excel has given up on life more than a dozen times and John, (call me J) has ‘fired across’ half a dozen pushy emails…

Each email in the chain pushes your blood pressure up a notch, to the point where by ‘end of play’ you can feel yourself ready to erupt like Mount Vesuvius.

You hit the *insert vice of choice* (ours is wine, or vodka – don’t worry mum honestly we’re fine!) to unwind when you get home, but you can’t help but think that there must be a way of staying super chill and rising above these thoughts; a la Gandhi or… possibly Snoop Dogg.

You must have read our minds; you were SO right.

Because there is

You might be surprised to find out that the number of fellow humans that are in the same boat as you are pretty damn high, and getting higher; (one in five men and women aged 16-24 showing symptoms of anxiety and depression according to  the independent).

Slay those unproductive thoughts that hold you back with our busy girl’s guide to meditation thought domination.



Although most people picture meditation as that humming thing, or something that sounds just a bit too ‘L.A’…

You should know that Meditation has nothing to do with religion or spiritual practice.

It has been scientifically proven to be the best exercise for keeping a healthy mind. Its “lifting” for the mind.

First, it’s good to know that the mind is just a tool and the voice inside this is the kicker – well, it’s not you. 

When you build the habit of meditation you can hear that voice speaking all day long, because that is his job. To look for problems to solve, to comment on the shitty weather, to think of your ex, etc. And most of the time it is speaking shit about you. But when you know that whatever it says is not true, it’s just its job to say things, you stop taking it seriously.


The kind of meditation I’m about to describe is called: Mindful Meditation or Vipassanā in Buddhism.

Mindfulness is the ability to know what is happening in your head in any given moment without being carried away by it. What is commonly known as: being in the moment.

This gives you the ability to respond wisely to any event. Being mindful will give you a choice in any situation to take the right approach and not be carried away by your thoughts like a mad dog. And just like learning a new skill, it takes time to master.

Let’s Start Here


1) Going It Alone

When you have a free 15 minutes…

• Set an alarm so you don’t have to think about the time.
• Sit with your back straight
• Do not close your eyes completely and choose a fixed
point in front of you to stare.
• Now, bring your attention to the FEELING of the breath.

Get ready for this to be boring but don’t worry this is normal!

“The whole game is just to notice when your mind is wandering and to come back to your breath, over and over and over…And when you do that, it is a bicep curl for your brain.

Whenever you’re attention drifts, GENTLY bring it back to the FEELING of your breath. DO NOT FIGHT IT OR GET ANGRY.

At first your thoughts will suddenly take you away like a furious train. This is normal. You are breaking a life time habit and the mind will not give you an easy fight. It will try to fool you because you were so attached to it. You will have fear, because it will be like losing yourself. Do not go with this. Stick to your mission, be consistent.


2) Anytime, Anywhere

You can meditate wherever you are.

It is difficult because distractions will be more likely. But if you find yourself “bored”, waiting in a red light or in a doctors office, walking down the street, eating: choose to meditate.

Make a choice to be where you are and observe what is happening. Put your phone back in your bag and exercise your mind.

Actually feel and see the world around you and you will be able to control any negative thoughts.

This is the key to feeling more positive, when you’ve mastered the silence then you can begin to add more positive thoughts into your day.

Living and feeling free is as simple as training your mind – think of your mind as the best muscle you can train and dedicate some time to mastering it.



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